Set your limit. Pick a “safe word” that you or your partner can use to signal a true emergency. Even experienced bondage players choose straightforward words like “enough” to act as the emergency brake for your session. Agree that, upon hearing the safe word, the active partner must stop the game and release the passive partner immediately and without question. Remember that you have the power to use that safe word if you feel uncomfortable for any reason. Don’t jeopardize your own safety just because you don’t want to ruin your partner’s experience.
Stay together. Never leave your bound partner alone for any reason. If you’re interrupted, release her and start fresh when you return to the room. Likewise, if your partner accidentally starts to leave the room, use your safe word to pause the game.
Keep focused. Avoid drinking or using recreational drugs when playing bondage games. You’ll want all of your faculties intact to enjoy the fantasy, and you run a high risk of injury if your judgment is impaired, even a little bit.
Play with the senses. You can have some of the most erotic experiences during your bondage fantasy by restricting senses as well as movement. Try blindfolding your partner, then surprising her with kisses or with sweet treats on her lips. Take the sensory deprivation further by wearing earplugs, then wafting scents under each other’s noses.
Have fun. Remember that you’re trying bondage to have a good time. If you’re not enjoying it, it might not be for you. Most folks, however, do find some kind of bondage play extremely arousing, so don’t be shy!
