Put her in charge. Grant her a fantasy wish. Let her choose the time, the place, and the scenario for her wildest dream. Play the young pupil to her Mrs. Robinson. Play the gardener for her desperate housewife. Play Steadman to her Oprah – whatever she wants, no matter how bizarre, let her have it.
Really put her in charge. Take your roleplaying even further by surprising her with a servant for the night. Let her know that you are at her complete service for the next six hours, and that no request will be denied. Take this exercise very seriously, and respond to every request with, “yes, mistress.” The first hour might seem a little awkward, as she tests her boundaries. Don’t be surprised if she’s cracking a whip at you by the end of the night.
Play with toys. Visit a quality adult novelty store in your area, or spend a little time surfing any of the discreet online sex shops. Choose a few toys for her to experiment with, and help her play around. The more secure and comfortable you make her feel, the more she will come out of her shell.
Get a little visual reinforcement. Late night cable television isn’t just for lonely single guys. Spice up your bedroom viewing with the occasional porn show. You can laugh together at the cheesier productions, but you’re bound to find something that gets her excited.
Take some time off. Circling back to the very first tip, you can break a boring routine by scheduling yourself a long business trip or a solo visit to family or friends. The heart isn’t the only thing that grows fonder with absence. Time your trip well, and you’ll have to keep her from taking you on the baggage claim belt.
