Make it a date. Women find anticipation so arousing. That’s one of the main reasons why there’s such pressure to perform on the wedding night. Instead of hoping for a spontaneous miracle, make a plan of action. Arrange for flowers, drinks, music, and anything else that extends the mood. Work out how you’re going to move from space to space, from room to room. If she can’t wait any longer, she’ll cut to the chase.
Take it slow. You’re not driving a stock car here. Even though your body might want to go fast, you can give her a deeper pleasure by dwelling on the rhythm of her body. During your first few encounters, set the mood with slow, passionate music. If the room’s quiet, count “one-one-thousand” in your head to stay in tempo.
Touch her all over. Caress her entire body with your hands. Kiss her all over with your lips. And let your tongue go anywhere it can. Despite the throbbing in your loins, remember that every part of her body plays in important role in her arousal.
Reduce the pressure. Many times, men can suspect that they’re suffering from erectile dysfunction when they’re simply under too much stress. First, keep work and other commitments out of the bedroom. Resolve any arguments with your bride before you make love. Remember that, with practice, your lovemaking will only get better. Focus on the rhythm of the moment and let yourself go.
Take care of her first. Especially if she has never experienced an orgasm in her life, make her come with your tongue or with your fingers before you try to slide any other part of yourself inside her. Chances are, you’ll climax too quickly for her to enjoy it. And if you can hold on for the ride, she’ll appreciate the double dip.
